You must love yourself before you can love anyone else

An online friend's blog prompted me to steal this song and post this blog.

This is an excerpt from his blog:

"Cases in point. I know some amazing women....deeply in love yet they wonder how or why they are loved. They have everything looks, intelligence, sense of humor yet they wonder why me....why did he pick me....they don't see how incredible they are. You can't convince them. I jokingly tell 'em quit fishin', but they're not they're really that insecure. They get a hundred compliments and one insult and all they hear is the insult....even if the insult has no basis in truth. Yet at the end of the day they are mad crazy in love."

"You must love yourself before you can love anyone else."

I've heard that saying all my life.

While there are things about me that I wouldn't change even if given the opportunity, and even though I think I'm a pretty good old gal, I'm uncomfortable saying aloud, "I love myself!". Yet I'm totally, deeply and madly in love, and have NO qualms experiencing it fully and declaring it often.



But, maybe it's past experience that has taught me not to take anything for granted. Pfft! That's an understatement if I've ever made one. I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop. Always aware of how quickly happiness can dissipate. No matter how much evidence to the contrary, will I always keep a part of me, in reserve, prepared for the day when the rug is pulled out from under me?



What would it take for me to drop all self-defense mechanisms and just.... TRUST completely? I've often wondered and I do, so fervently, hope that at some not too distant point, I will have that ability. I hope I just wake up some day and it'll hit me. "I'm happy!" sans reservations!!!



Farkin' baggage! Why is it so hard to just set it down and move forward?